walk the line: thankfulness

I try to walk a line here, like Johnny Cash… well, not so much like Johnny Cash. But I try to walk a line between finding humor in chaos without actually complaining about chaos. 
The thing is, there were several years when having a healthy baby seemed like an impossibility. I had had R2 at 24 weeks, and then had the twins, and lost the twins at 24 weeks, and no one had any answers for me. Those were the hardest years of my life, wanting more kids, but wanting to be healthy and wanting them to be healthy. It all seemed out of reach. 
In time, and with incredibly hard work and a ton of grace from God for the work, I gained the family I had prayed for, dreamed about. I live in the reality of answered prayers every day, and even if those answers came differently than I wanted at the time, now I can say I have exactly what I wanted. 
In the waiting, though, I learned how very, very hard it is to wait. I learned how painful it is when someone takes the impossible dream of your heart for granted. I remember crying about people complaining about their children, about their pregnancies,. There was nothing I wanted more than to be in their position. “I will never,” I told myself, “be ungrateful when I have children.” 
Like all “never” promises, I have failed in that many times. It’s still a goal, though, to remember- to not let that feeling of longing and heartache get too far away from me. I have friends who are still in the waiting, and the last thing I want to do is hurt you with a careless approach to the great gift I have been given. 
In all the months of bedrest with Toby, and physical and emotional fight that kept me on my side, pumped full of drugs and prayer, my continual thought was, “If this gets a take-home baby, it is all worth it.” That was my driving thought. Any cost, any effort, worth it. And it was. 
All of the hospitals, the bedrests, the adoption fees, my poor body, the sleepless nights of their infancy and even now, the moments of terror when Parenting 101 fails me, I would give it all a thousand times to have these ones. 
If you’re waiting, I know that it is hard. I pray that you are given the desires of your heart. 

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One thought on “walk the line: thankfulness

  1. Anonymous says:

    Yes. Thank you for this…after infertility, adoption and two babies (surprise!), it's a hard line to walk, cheering on friends who are waiting.

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